Communication is Key
I think there is something to be said about people who have great communication skills. Because it is not easy. Especially if you are not use to being a communicator. Communication and being honest with people who you interact with is a hard thing because so much goes into the act itself. Depending on your personality and your upbringing sometimes effective communicating is not developed. Am I saying that the way people grew up is wrong? Definitely not. Because how we grow up and what we experience during that time period shapes who we are and how we see the world and operate. I can only speak from my experiences. My family knew things to be true based off of assumptions or what was done. Actions spoke louder than words. That is how some families do things.
So with all that back story, I think that there are three particular types of communicators (I'm sure there are more but these were the three main I thought of), and just to not make this a book/super long post, I will break these up. These I think are the ways people communicate specifically in relationships. Not so much the social skills but when you are communicating with people you are close to like family members, close friends or significant others...
The first type: Immediate Communicator- These people want to talk right now, just lay it out all on the table crush all the eggs then go ahead and clean up all the pieces. I think that sometimes this is the best way to be because gets everything out. This way you can say what you need to say, there is an open dialogue and the situation can be resolved.... Well hopefully anyway. This type of communicator can also be somewhat hard to be as well because we all aren't immediate communicators. Sometimes we just want to linger.... marinate.... stew in our emotions. If you think you are this type, you definitely need patience. Because the people you talk to may not be ready to resolve things as quickly as you are. I think people like this once the issue is resolved can get over the situation and reset to the point before the situation occurred.
I think its key to know what type of communicator you are, because it gives you insight on your strengths and weaknesses. So just think about it!
Look out for the next post where I will talk about the type that I relate to the most, the slower communicator :)
The first type: Immediate Communicator- These people want to talk right now, just lay it out all on the table crush all the eggs then go ahead and clean up all the pieces. I think that sometimes this is the best way to be because gets everything out. This way you can say what you need to say, there is an open dialogue and the situation can be resolved.... Well hopefully anyway. This type of communicator can also be somewhat hard to be as well because we all aren't immediate communicators. Sometimes we just want to linger.... marinate.... stew in our emotions. If you think you are this type, you definitely need patience. Because the people you talk to may not be ready to resolve things as quickly as you are. I think people like this once the issue is resolved can get over the situation and reset to the point before the situation occurred.
I think its key to know what type of communicator you are, because it gives you insight on your strengths and weaknesses. So just think about it!
Look out for the next post where I will talk about the type that I relate to the most, the slower communicator :)
I would like to start by saying this is a awesome blog! communication is definitely needed!
ReplyDeleteIn the beginning God constantly communicated with Jesus most importantly Jesus listened (willingly) to get clarification and instruction. Jesus begin to communicate with the disciples.....others would say teach or talk in parables not all of them understood but communication was key to fully understand the teachings. "Simply repeating back what was spoken in question form helps the speaker to elaborate so you can fully get understanding". The single biggest problem in communication today is the illusion that it has already taken place. Everyone has a different meaning of communication, To some communication is expecting others to read between the the lines after one spoken unclear sentence.
The goal of effective communication is to create a common perception that is received in a positive manner, so that you can together agree on a further action or decision…even if that just means that the other person will allow you to continue speaking! Don't get me wrong you will not always agree but this allows you to learn how to further engage on communicating and come to a compromise you both can agree upon.
Remember, great communication skills take practice. Which means you can't give up before you try. Your ability to express yourself will grow almost daily as long as you apply yourself in wanting to improve.
The way we communicate with others and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives.
The two words information and communication are often used interchangeably, but they signify quite different things. Information is giving out; communication is getting through. Love ya
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Your spacing is good. I thank you for the extra nuggets! I think that you made some awesome points about the understanding and perception of how we communicate. The perception is a big part of communication because if it is not perceived correctly then you may have failed and have to try again but thank you again Love you!
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